Stronger, braver, smarter….

April 3, 2012Carole 5 Comments »

Sometimes wisdom can be found in the oddest places. I came across this quote from Winne the Pooh.

“Promise me you will always remember: You are stronger than you seem, braver than you feel, and smarter than you think,” — Christopher Robin to Pooh.

This is the message I hope to pass on to all of you struggling with infertility. Infertility can take control of your life, darkening your spirits and making you question your  entire life, your choices and decisions, past and future. It can make you question everything, even your place in the world. Don’t let it. You will get through this. The ending may not be written the way you expect but you will find an answer for yourself. You will do the best you can with what you have. You are stronger than you seem.

Don’t give up hope that a better day lies ahead. No one can promise you a biological child. Even the best science can’t guarantee that. But you will get through this. There is a morning after infertility where you either face the brand new challenges of parenthood (one way or another)  or find another path to nurture the future, your way. You are braver than you feel.

Don’t let someone else push you to do something that  you don’t understand or that troubles you for some reason. Ask questions until you feel confident about your choices and can make the best decision for yourself and your family. If your  doctor can’t or won’t explain something, find another who will.  If something sounds too good to be true, it probably is. You are smarter than you think.

Promise me you will always remember: You are stronger than you seem, braver than you feel, and smarter than you think.

© 2012, Carole. All rights reserved.

5 Responses to this entry

  • mo Says:

    lovely sentiment, thank you. with your permission, i may borrow this quote for a post. hard to remember sometimes. other times, i forget how hard it is (minimization as a way of coping, i think) and then am surprised when it hits me.

    I love your site. don’t know if i’ve mentioned it, but i do. thanks for your presence in the blogosphere : )

    Mo

  • It Is What It Is Says:

    I am about to publish a post (http://itiswhatitisorisit.net/?p=2892) that links to this post. I’m in such an emotionally fragile place as we reach the end of the road in our pursuit of #2 through the gift of donated embryos. I am a strong, strong woman, but nothing has tested that more than our attempts to create and build our family through ART.

  • Fragile « It is what it is (or is it?) Says:

    […] as we near the end of the road in our family building efforts.  First, I read Carole’s Stronger, Braver, Smarter… post over at Fertility Lab Insider where she draws upon a quote from Winnie the Pooh (some of the […]

  • Carole Says:

    Mo, of course you may borrow my borrowing of Christopher Robin’s quote ! 🙂 Wishing you all the best, your struggle embodies stronger, braver , smarter!! Hugs!

  • Alison Says:

    Gosh, this had me welling up. Thank you for your blog. You’ve made sense of a maddening and confusing process for me. Please keep blogging!

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